Revenge

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Going along with the drama post from yesterday this was something in 6th grade my mother said to me.  I had switched schools to a small Catholic school where most of the kids had been together since Kindergarten.  I was the “outsider” trying to fit in.  Of course the “click” of girls did not accept me.  I have a very strong personality so would never let them know it was hurtful but at home would express my dislike of the school to my parents and cry.  That is when my mother said to me “Happiness is your best revenge. It will make them think twice when they see they are not getting to you”. 

Two weeks after joining the school and acting like it was the best thing going (while cursing it out privately at home to my siblings) the “click” started losing it’s power and the girls started befriending me leaving the one “ring leader” to try and be my friend.  To this day she still tries (sending me facebook friend requests which I deny every time lol).  Happiness was my best revenge.  It also taught me happiness is a choice and when life throws you a curve you can either choose to be happy or choose to let it get to you. 

I hope whatever is thrown at you, happiness is your choice!!

Drama…no thanks

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“If you can’t say it to someone’s face, don’t say it to anyone else. If you are upset, angry, or unhappy with a situation, face it head on, don’t be a “behind the scenes” person stirring the pot hoping someone else will join your battle.”  Told to me by my father in my teen years.  One of the wisest bits of advice he shared with me.  He was a very wise man.

I have always been a person who does not like drama.  I will avoid people and situations I know create or thrive on it.  Everyone has some drama in their lives but school age girls are the worst. I had/have many acquaintances that I consider friends but not close friends as I do not like the drama they drag around.  In school most of my friends were boys or other “cowgirls” as we had no time for drama in the barn focusing on riding our horses.

I have shared this information with my children over the years.  My 12 year old daughter is now dealing with the typical girl drama and is showing she has learned by example of walking away and avoiding the drama creators in her class stating “shallow girls are not worth my time”.  That makes me one happy mother!!