“If you want something make it happen or make an excuse”

great aunt dottie

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Aunt Dottie with her mom and 2 brothers (the tall one is my maternal grandfather)

This is my great aunt Dottie.  I’ve mentioned before I come from a long line of independent women.  Aunt Dottie was the only girl in a family of 4 boys.  She is an adventurer.  In her mid 90’s now she still swims in the Lake, takes Tennis and is on a softball team.  She teaches water aerobics and does yoga.

She had 3 daughters and raised them on her own.  Sadly her oldest died of a brain aneurysm at an early age.  She worked hard and enjoyed all the good things in life like flying a plane and skydiving.  I love to listen to her stories of her life.

Her wisdom is an inspiration.  Her simple philosophy of life should be taught in schools.  She always said to us children to live life and not be afraid of failure.  If you get knocked down, get up.  You don’t deserve special treatment nor for anyone to take care of you if you are healthy enough to take care of yourself.  If you want something, make it happen or make an excuse.  I remember thinking it was mean when I was a child to say something like that.  As I’ve gotten older, I appreciate those words and the truth behind them.  And I am sharing those wonderful words of wisdom with my children.

She is coming to visit us in August and I can’t wait to see her and listen to her adventures over the last year!!

Revenge

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Going along with the drama post from yesterday this was something in 6th grade my mother said to me.  I had switched schools to a small Catholic school where most of the kids had been together since Kindergarten.  I was the “outsider” trying to fit in.  Of course the “click” of girls did not accept me.  I have a very strong personality so would never let them know it was hurtful but at home would express my dislike of the school to my parents and cry.  That is when my mother said to me “Happiness is your best revenge. It will make them think twice when they see they are not getting to you”. 

Two weeks after joining the school and acting like it was the best thing going (while cursing it out privately at home to my siblings) the “click” started losing it’s power and the girls started befriending me leaving the one “ring leader” to try and be my friend.  To this day she still tries (sending me facebook friend requests which I deny every time lol).  Happiness was my best revenge.  It also taught me happiness is a choice and when life throws you a curve you can either choose to be happy or choose to let it get to you. 

I hope whatever is thrown at you, happiness is your choice!!

Love this!!

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This is something I printed, framed and hung in my daughters room as a daily reminder happiness is a choice and she is responsible for how she feels no matter what the world throws at her!!!  I also made one to hang in my sons room.